G is for Giving

My theme for this year’s Blogging from A to Z April Challenge is Marriage from A to Z in 55 Words. G is for Giving in Marriage!
G is for Giving in Marriage

55 Fiction

“Honey, I have to hang out with my buddies for an important league match tonight”

“Of course, you must not miss that”, she told him sweetly.

After all, she is a cool wife who encourages her husband to bond with his male friends.

She kissed him a goodbye…

…then wallowed on the couch, and cried.

 

A Word to the Wise

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97 thoughts on “G is for Giving

    • May be that was her irrational self who didn’t like to the idea of husband hanging out with friends that day, despite consenting to it πŸ˜‰

    • Or may be she will learn to take this as an opportunity to spend doing things which she loves!! Now, you have given me an idea, LuAnn! πŸ˜‰ Thank you πŸ™‚

  1. Awww! She shouldn’t have cried!!
    she should be spending the evening with her friends then. or maybe tell her husband how she really feels abt it all?

    Communication is key na?

    • You are spot on Liz. Even as a couple, we are still two individuals and to grow as a couple, we must also be permitted to grow as an individual. So the ‘Me Time’ is very important πŸ™‚

  2. I think she cries because sometimes we know realistically we should give each other space to grow, but we hope our partners won’t want this space and fear that their wanting the time shows they don’t love us enough. Or maybe, she doesn’t have a social life outside of him so she cries from loneliness when he’s gone, though she knows she should also cultivate friendships and a social life away from him.

    • I love the way you thought about her! I think that could be the reason for her crying! Thanks for sharing your mature and so relevant point of view. Appreciate it, Damaria πŸ™‚ β™₯

  3. If she didn’t want him to go, she should have spoken up! It always makes me sad to see relationships fail because of a lack of communication. How can a spouse give you what you need if you don’t know what you need or aren’t comfortable enough speaking up about what you need?

  4. She is not a cool wife, she is in fact the timid type posing as a cool one. Maybe she does not get the same space when she wants that. To give space to each other is the best thing in a relationship between couples to grow more stronger.
    However, it can work only if both are willing to give it freely to each other.

  5. I felt sad that she cried πŸ˜‰ Instead she should take it as a well deservd ‘Me-Time’. But here again, I love the way you’ve left it open for interpretation, because her tears might have many reasons. I can comprehend that fully.

    • Thank you so much Sreeja, for sharing that! Yes, it is again an open ended story. I am experimenting with them… brings out such diverse thoughts and views. πŸ™‚

  6. I think it really helps me and my husband to be apart so much. He is usually gone 3-6 weeks at a time, plenty of time for each of us to have our own time. When he comes home it is time to finally be together. Even then, he takes time to putter around the garage, race his rc trucks with our son in the backyard and do guy stuff. Give and take makes a relationship a success. β™₯

  7. No need for her to cry. She can also meet her friends on a regular basis. My wife goes out for their monthly “girls night out” on the last Thursday every month. I stay home. Nothing wrong with that.

  8. It’s a natural feeling for her to cry, at least intially. Once she matures and realises that clinging is not loving, she will learn to let go, with confidence and love.

    Beautiful , Shilpa.

  9. we need to learn to accommodate each other’s liking &interests….and if there is a problem doing that we need to sit down and talk rather than holding a grudge…..that’s how I feel

    • LOL @ “men seldom understand that women mean no when they say yes” Yes, it’s true. Have you seen Vidya Balan and Farhan starrer, Shaadi Ke Side Effects? There was a dialogue to this effect in the movie. πŸ˜€

  10. Sad… Many wives are like that!!! My sister is super cool… she chases her hubby away and we both end up watching hindi late night soap operas, movies, making maggi, drinking cold coffee, playing uno!!! Maybe the wife in the story didn’t have kid sis like me πŸ˜› πŸ˜€

  11. Well I think she shouldn’t cry in the first place. But if she feels that way there is nothing a good talk can’t resolve. Each if the spouses must let the other know their perceptions!

  12. Although I agree that giving each other space in marriage is necessary, the space should not extend to that extent where the couple cannot even feel the presence of the other in his/her life 😐

    • Well said, Meena! Like as I said earlier, even as a couple, we are still two individuals and to grow as a couple, we must also be permitted to grow as an individual.

  13. Giving space is fine but too much space makes you lose touch with each other. She should have gone out with her friends or invited them over for a girl bonding session.

    • Too much of everything is bad and it will have the same impact on a marriage too! I am sure she would learn to do that, sooner or later πŸ™‚

  14. I agree that we all need to have our own space. If I was in a relationship and didn’t have a LOT of my own space, I’d go nuts. πŸ˜‰

    Probably best I’m single … ha.

  15. Why wallow and cry? She should make some plans of her own with her friends. As others have said, people in a relationship still need their space. Too much togetherness can be smothering. πŸ™‚ Well written though.

  16. Aaaa – nice write -up Shilpa… but that lady… Hm – she should have danced out to have a girls night out with her friends instead, I think- perfect opportunity:-) So to give and take from both sides, and then both are happy and no one will cry:-) The End. He he πŸ™‚

    • I liked your perspective, Danny. You think it’s been happening for a while?! Very interesting πŸ™‚ Thank you so much, you are too generous, Danny! πŸ™‚

  17. A little space fosters a healthier relationship, we all need “me time”. With a little bit of planning, both husband and wife can schedule something that interests them individually and have fun without the other having to tag along forcibly or mope in silence. the sadness here might be because he told her at the nth moment.

    • “The sadness here might be because he told her at the nth moment”… very much feasible. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this 55er, Reshma. πŸ™‚

  18. Agree….agree…..100%. One of the reason most marriages break is because there is not enough space to nurture the relationship. Each one has to have some “ME” time.

    Love the way, you are focusing on the tiny but important emotions in a relationship.

    Great going shilpa:)

  19. It is true,it is all about give and take.
    Have you ever wondered as to why it is she who always gives without expecting anything in return?
    Never found an answer to this..Hoping Divine intervention one day

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