Her Story So Far


Unattached and Independent. Yes, these words define her. She has been like that for as long as she remembers. She has lived life on her own terms, always!o-single-woman-facebook.jpg

If she wanted to stay in bed all day, reading a book, she could do that without a care, without a second thought. She could pack her bags and leave for a vacation wherever and whenever. The freedom to follow her dreams and passions, she cherished that. Why, if a friend called her to accompany somewhere, she could say a yes or a no immediately as she needn’t check with anybody, ever.

In her world, she reigned supreme. A dream job, a dream house and a dream life. What else does one want?

She was single and living the dream!! Now wasn’t that simply perfect!!

And then her perfect world started looking a little less perfect! She had been feeling more lonely, over the last few months! No, it was not that she no longer enjoyed her company. No, she still needed her ‘me’ time especially after spending long hours with friends. But of late, she felt she was lonely than alone.

A surprising new feeling of talking to somebody when she was low was rearing its head. The usual methods of staying positive or allowing the bright her to cast a shadow on the dark her or relying on her mental toughness, were failing her regularly. Why was she feeling the need of a comforting arm or somebody to listen to her … Somebody to tell her to go back to sleep and that all would be ok in the morning. Or somebody to snuggle up to…

Being single was suddenly not looking so awesome!!

Now in her late 40s, she believed that love may be behind her and that chances of finding a like minded partner were very slim. And that was more so as she started feeling that she’s never going to have one! Was there something strange about her that puts people off? Or is it her success that makes her unapproachable.
She was too late, she thought.
Or was she?

Linking to the Write Tribe’s Wednesday Prompt : She was too late.


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30 thoughts on “Her Story So Far

  1. If she wants to marry at 40+, after having experienced freedom in its truest sense, she will find everyday living of the married life (afterwards), sheer hell. By then, it may be too difficult to sort out the legal & personal issues that follow, and she might end up making huge compromises. In short, she will long for her earlier life.

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  2. When my daughter was growing up and was in skirts,I always told my wife that girls looked their best at a particular stage in life.How I wish girls grew up,without adding age …sounds stupid or funny?
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  3. I don’t think its too late maybe she meets someone who is in a similar position as she is. Freedom always comes at a price. and here she is now feeling the pinch to share and cared . its rightly said , ‘Shaadi ka laddoo , khaye woh repent kare………’
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  4. Hmm have seen such live examples. Sometimes it is too late to find a partner and even if they find one, it would be someone who is divorced or has kids etc. Atleast in India, it is very difficult to find someone at that age.
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  5. Freedom is enjoyable to a great extent. But freedom alone cannot define happiness. One always needs someone or the other to share their experiences, happiness, sorrows, worries, uncertainties with. A companion is required and you’ll definitely yearn for one some day. Better late than never.
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  6. Very realistic narrative, Shilpa ji. It is the companionship that’s more important than marriage itself. I guess she’s not too late; she can still find a companion who will accept her the way she is and for all that she believes in. Catchy write up !
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  7. I’m glad I didn’t accept the proposals of young men, when I was a young woman. The one who is trying to marry me now (and I’m in my forties) is the best I’ve ever known. Relationships are not restricted to youth, and if you’re good at them you will, firstly, love yourself – and eventually love someone who is also very old 🙂 Reflex Reactions

  8. Shilpa, please delete my earlier post for it is replete with typos . Thanks!

    Never say never, so in a way it is not too late. The reason that led to this situation was the urge to live only for oneself, for ‘me’: ‘I’ will get lost if I’m a part of ‘us’.

    I have found this sentiment growing among young women. The reasons for this are many. On the surface it is financial independence, empowerment through education and exposure, social acceptance of the single state, etc. Deeper down it could be growing up in a household where the woman was not given her due and trampled upon. Or it could be that, growing up in a nuclear family, the young woman never had to be responsible for anyone and is wary of taking on the responsibilities. Or it is just a wait for Mr.Right. Anyway, the ‘why’ is better understood by social scientists.

    Having been married for twenty-eight years, I will say that the ‘I’ is definitely not lost after marriage. It only grows stronger, and in a good way. Because you have multiple identities, you are a wife, mother, aunt, etc. you are more complete (and less lonely ). Why should these identities smother the ‘I’? Are we not daughters, and sisters? Don’t these identities enrich us? Would we have been better off growing up as orphans with only ourselves to please?

    All this comes with one small rider. We must give all that we expect. If we want a caring husband, we must become caring wives. It doesn’t make us doormats. We are intelligent enough to know where to draw the line. And if we respect ourselves, which is different from just being egoistic, others will do too.

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