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I, Me, Myself Syndrome

I have a few ‘friends’ on my Facebook profile who are plagued by this syndrome. I don’t think they are aware of this affliction. Because, if they were, they would have taken some remedial actions, but their affliction continues to progress unabated, much to the chagrin of others.

Yes, they are bitten by the selfie bug.

These friends click and upload at least a dozen selfies a day. All they have to do is turn to their good side, look up slightly (of course, the double chin shouldn’t be visible), stretch their arm and simply shoot themselves, of course with their smartphones. selfie

They LOVE to click themselves with a pout, with a smile, with ‘that’ look, with love in their eyes, everywhere… be it in the office, in front of the car or in the car, on the stairs, in the bathroom, in a new dress or just a regular tee. They also like to click themselves with their child in the backseat of the car, or with coffee at Starbucks…  And then just share these pics on social media and wait for the likes and comments from friends to pour or trickle in.

They say that the selfies (in moderation!) may be good for one’s self esteem and/or may uplift the mood, but too many selfies are not good. Some people may just get addicted to taking that perfect selfie and may kill themselves when they fail to do it. Also, one may get distracted by the marketing of themselves through these selfies, and may lose touch with their authentic identities and there could be a struggle to build real relationships.

I don’t know about others, but somehow seeing these selfies day in and day out irk me, somewhat. And then I read about a study from U.K. that confirmed what I had long suspected. The study found that oversharing of Facebook photos is more than just a nuisance, and uploading a hundred selfies per day could very well be damaging to your real-world relationships. And that both excessive photo sharing and sharing photos of a certain type makes almost everyone like you less. This is because people, other than very close friends and relatives, don’t seem to relate well to those who constantly share photos of themselves.

So, what is the cure for this I, Me, Myself syndrome, which is not only harmful for these selfie bugged people but also for their relationships. Well, it is pretty simple, “Stop taking so many damn selfies!”

Linking this to the Write Tribe’s Wednesday prompt, “I, Me, and Myself”

66 Responses

  1. I belong to the generation of group photographs and family photographs. To me, selfie is another indication of how isolated and alone people have become. This fb sharing and a thousand online friends cannot be a substitution, nor can it be as satisfying, as real world companionship.

    Protests? I’m wrong? I hope so.

    1. Agree with you, Geeta! They say that people who share so much on social media are actually very lonely in real life and may have self-esteem issues! 🙁

  2. Aaha…. no you shouldn’t miss that pout. And guess what, selfies get the maximum likes and comments and they get analysed the most 😆 And for many , it is a way to show off their smartphones or cameras too 😀
    IMeMyselfies 😀 😀

  3. Well, you don’t have to worry about that with me. I’ve barely had any pictures taken where I’ve been in the frame (willingly) in the last 20 years! I agree with your diagnosis of this situation wholeheartedly and think that picture is hilarious. I think I’m going to pin it. :O)

    1. LOL 😀 But then you must get yourself clicked a bit more often, then. LuAnn! Photographs are great way to go go down the memory lane 🙂
      Thanks, glad you liked this post 🙂

  4. Good one Shilpa. I don’t get it either with this selfie business. I’d probably have to take about a thousand pics before I found one decent enough to post and who has time for a thousand pics!

  5. Better, they should stop being so selfish or at least not bore others with their own silly selfie images. Fortunately, I don’t have many friends who do that. If there were, I would have blocked all posts from them from my timeline.

    Destination Infinity

    1. Hmmm…. But they love it and enjoy clicking selfies. I think they are probably unaware of the fact that this self love of theirs can irritate others! 😉

  6. I have to agree with that study… I do imagine it would very annoying for those who don’t know these people or conversely know but dont care about them to be flooded by a barrage of selfie pics 🙂
    Virtual world problems spilling into real life, perhaps?

  7. //of course, the double chin shouldn’t be visible// lol 😀 😀 😀
    People take selfies this seriously?! I didn’t quite know. (I just noticed, when I typed ‘selfies’, I am suggested with ‘Selfless’ – Call it Irony? or antonym 🙂

    Loved this post, Shilpa 🙂

    1. Oh, 2 of my friends are very serious about this. 🙄
      Wow… selfies corrected to selfless, how ironical 😀 Thanks Rohini. Glad you enjoyed this post 🙂

    1. Oh yes, seeing so many selfies in a day is so irritating! True, may be they are looking for approval through these pics! Thanks Carol 🙂

  8. Loved your post, Shilpa. I even added your link to my post as you were my inspiration for my nutty narcissistic poem for today. So true about there being people like this who go on about themselves and are totally narcissistic, posting selfies and never caring about anyone else or ever reciprocating. It reminds me of those bores in real life who only talk about themselves and never listen to anyone else.

    1. Thank you so much Cat! Your poem is spot on and you have captured the narcissism of the selfie addicts so well. Kudos 🙂

  9. LMAO! Since I hate pictures of me I have never jumped on the selfie bandwagon. I know what you mean. Teenagers are the worst at getting bit by the selfie bug…taking tons of them because they can!

  10. Lol, Shilpa! You had me laughing out. Oh yes, I have a few of these on my FB. I’ve stopped logging into FB these days, too many pouting selfies there for my taste. Also, it makes me wonder how people can be so self obsessed..

    1. Hi Smitha. So good to see you! Long long time! Oh, they are self obsessed, no doubt! These selfie addicts feel as though they’re starring in their own reality shows, with an inflated sense of self that allows them to believe that their friends are interested in seeing them in different or same poses day in and day out!! 🙄

  11. Talk about selfies, i have a friend(eek not anymore) is now obsessed with cleavage selfie. Yes you heard it correct.After the recent diabolical of deepika padukone’s cleavage controversy, she has started uploading selfie aimed at her cleavage to support the actress. Now this is disgusting and obscene.

  12. LOL!!
    I haven’t managed to take a decent selfie.. sigh! I always come off looking weird or my nose looks too big.. you know?!
    I think its an art to take the perfect selfie 😀
    but of course, too many is too bad!!

    1. Exactly the case with me… I think, I look terrible in a selfie 😀
      Agree, it is an art. And can you believe that there are so many websites that give tips and tutorials on clicking that perfect selfie! 🙄

  13. It was quite a fun read, Shilpa!
    I agree it can indeed be very irritating to see so many selfies 🙂 I have a few people like that on my FB friends list….but thankfully most of them are still quite young and my hope is that they will grow wiser as they grow a bit older! Well at least one can hope.

  14. Totally agree with you Shilpa. The obsession with selfies can get really annoying! But I guess, time will heal. Just like all other temporary frenzies doing the rounds on the world wide web, this too shall pass (hopefully)!

  15. I was wondering who takes so many selfies in my friends list and found none. First thing, I hate selfies. Glad didn’t come across someone like that..I hope this message reaches them, Shilpa 🙂

  16. So well said, Shilpa. The selfies kinda stuffs is so irritating when you see them all over the place. I, somehow, can understand it and once or twice, I tried. But, beyond that, no way!!!!

    1. I know what you mean. Once in a while, it is ok, but daily and that too so many times in a day… I think something is wrong somewhere!!

    1. Agree with you. I think these duck faces look really silly! But they are so much in vogue! 🙄 No idea about the selfies and bathroom connection!

  17. Even i have some on my list, shilpa. I am still ok with teens but the older people posing for selfies with their new dress, hairclips, shoes, earrings etc.

    Why are these old people fishing for compliments?

  18. I so agree with you, this selfie fad is really irritating and absolutely pointless. If you do it once in a while it is fine but when it goes an extreme it really becomes irritiating.

  19. I usually unfollow such friends who post these selfies a lot. Thankfully, one doesnt have to block people, but just unfollow them. I feel that’s a very good option in Facebook.

  20. Yesterday I was sitting in Coffee Day, and I saw this girl decked up to the nines taking a selfie of herself in the coffee shop. Was so puzzled why someone would do that~

    1. God! Yesterday, saw a friend who is on a holiday with family and he had posted just one pic of wifey and the child and 6 selfies of himself… one with the beer, one with the food, one with a statue in the resort… Too much of narcissism.

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