I am delighted to welcome, Corinne Rodrigues on my blog, today. If I were to describe Corinne in one word, it will be… Inspiring! Her writings, which are words of wisdom from regular events of everyday life, reflect that.
Please join me in welcoming Corinne to my space here and I hope you enjoy her thought provoking and inspiring post as much as I do.
Over to Corinne…
Last week, we heard a woman screaming out a string of insults at the workers in the apartment opposite ours. As we listened closer, we realized it was a neighbour from upstairs, calling the workers ‘animals’ etc. Their crime? They were doing their work – breaking the plaster prior to painting. Her reason for being upset? She couldn’t sleep in the afternoon. My husband had to remind her that the whole building had suffered similar discomfort when the work in her flat (and subsequently ours) went on. And the workers in her flat worked late into the night. She argued that her workers didn’t make that much of a noise! How would she know – she didn’t live here at the time. But in her mind she was entitled to her afternoon nap and how dare anyone disturb her!
Later that evening as I went for a walk, I kept almost bumping into people who while walking on the busy roads just had to keep looking at their mobile phones. It didn’t matter that people coming in the opposite direction had to move into traffic to avoid them – it was their phone and their time and they were entitled to do that – no apologies needed!
A sense of entitlement is described an unrealistic, unmerited or inappropriate expectation of favorable treatment at the hands of others.
It’s easy to say that this type of behaviour is typical of the Generation Y or the Millennials. Why, we even think it’s typical of dogs these days! 😉
But seriously I’ve seen this attitude across different age groups, backgrounds and professions. When the passenger next to you in the airplane thinks it’s his right to keeping buzzing for the airhostess for no reason at all, or the your colleague regularly expects you to complete their work, or the neighbour thinks it’s okay to leave his garbage outside the door and have the cats make a mess, or when you’re walking down the street and someone throws a used can out of their car, or when a celebrity commits a crime and expects to be let off lightly, then you know that a sense of entitlement is alive and well! Sadly, so.
What makes people feel this way? I think it’s pretty simple. It’s a basic lack of empathy towards others. When life becomes all about ourselves and our needs, then the feelings of others get trampled upon.
We can’t change the behaviour of other people. But we can certainly check our own. We can work on looking at things from the other’s point of view and cultivating empathy within ourselves. When we go out of ourselves and realize how much other people suffer, then we can begin to be empathetic.
And if you are in a relationship/s where others are taking advantage of you or exercising their sense of entitlement, make sure you take care of your own needs while taking care of theirs. Also, think before you make commitments and don’t feel pressured to give into their demands.
To read posts by fellow friends and UBC and NaBloPoMo participants, click here Jairam, Kajal, Kathy, Michelle, Nabanita, Richa, Suzy Que, Sheethal. Yes, we can do we with some more cheering and support.