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100 Words On Saturday : Quiet Conversations

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I was busy. She came unannounced and said in a sombre voice , “I broke up with him”. I was tempted to say something  in a I-told-you-so-look. But checked myself and asked instead, “How are you feeling?”.

That one question changed our relationship.

Listening to her with attention, alertness and an attitude of acceptance as she talked about her insecurities, vulnerabilities, gave a deeper sense of connect. This quiet conversation moved our relationship to a more meaningful one.

I learnt that day, the therapeutic and healing power of empathy in a conversation, the power of looking from someone else’s perspective…
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    1. It is wonderful to write with word limits. I like the challenge of removing 3 words or adding 2 more to achieve the perfect word limit. Try it, Reema… you’ll like the experience. 🙂

  1. powerful words Shilpa! so many of the problems could be solved just if we listened! that’s why it is said that god gave us two ears and only one mouth, so that we can listen to others twice as much as we speak!!

    1. That’s right, the role of a listener is to help empty the large reservoirs of emotion, anger, stress and other negative feelings until the person can see more clearly. And in this process the person feels better and is on the road to recovery and healing…

    1. Absolutely! More of us need to be listening empathetically. Few of us actually listen. Even if we appear to be paying attention, we’re usually just thinking about our response. 😛

  2. The willingness to listen and the attitude of acceptance, this was the base of our (my Sh’s) relationship.. Don’t know what went wrong 🙁
    This post truly touched my heart..

  3. Beautiful, to listen and empathize when its easier to reprimand and rebuke, is such a difficult, but rewarding thing to do. 🙂

  4. Most people hear you but do they really listen to what you are saying? listening is more important than speaking, I guess that’s why we have two ears and one mouth 🙂

    1. You have shared an important aspect, Sharmila… Hearing and listening are so different. The difference between the sense of hearing and the skill of listening is attention, which most of us lack so badly.

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