I can’t even begin to tell you about the hardships I’ve had in my life. They’ve hit me like waves lashing against the boulders. One wave disappeared and another one shaped up to knock me down again.
I am glad that I had these hard times. They turned the wounds into wisdom, struggle into sapience.
They helped me to move ‘people I know’ into ‘people I knew’… the ones who put me in tough times and the ones who left me in tough times.
But I will always cherish the ones who were there with me despite the tough times.
I am taking part in The Write Tribe Festival of Words 8th – 14th December 2013.The Theme for today is People.
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71 Responses
Well put Shilpa.. With time, it is so important to let-go of some of those relationships.! They do more harm than good.. Wisdom of life indeed!
Thanks Nischala. Yes, let go of the toxic relationships and move on should be the mantra!
They helped me to move ‘people I know’ into ‘people I knew’… the ones who put me in tough times and the ones who left me in tough times…………….to make me a tough person , I am today.
a hard-hitting drabble.
Thanks Kalpana!
Another gem from your end Shilpa. I remember recently i was teaching management students a theory called SET( Social Exchange Theory) which highlighted the same principles which you highlighted in your post. Some people stay with us and some leaves us when their motive is fulfilled 🙂
Thanks for sharing your experience Sunita! Yes, the selfish ones are way too many around us!
Like they say, “a friend in need is a friend indeed”. Loved it.
Well said, A. Thanks 🙂
Very strong words, Shilpa – and I echo them!
Thanks a lot, Corinne, glad you relate to it too 🙂
I relate with every single word you wrote — well said
Thank you Carol. Glad that this thought resonates with you! 🙂
Very true Shilpa, hard times mould us into better persons and show us what are is the true value of things we hold dear.
True. Hard times help us do the reality check!
Lovely post, it is very important that we get rid of all the ‘toxic relationships’ in our lives as they end up poisoning our lives in more ways than one. Good for you that managed to get rid of them and have moved on.
Oh yes, it is best to let go and move on before the poison of such relationships bitters you forever!
Wisdom and understanding helps you move on from those toxic relationships in life. A person is better off without people like that in your life. Life is too short to not be happy and be with people who make you happy. Loved this post because it mirrors some of the decisions I have made in life. Awesome post filled with so much truth. ♥
Thank you so much Kathy and am so glad that you believe in this thought and have made it a way of life for you! Hugs ♥
Very powerful and strong !
Thanks Ma’am 🙂
That’s true. Also, it’s so much fun – letting go of ppl 🙂
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Fun… never thought that way. But yes, it gives a lot of peace of mind!
i don’t totally agree.. but yes, to some point it’s true, to some point i agree..
i have tagged you in this post, a part of Blogadda, hope you’ll acknowledge it…http://pratikshya-magicmoments.blogspot.in/2013/12/daddy-dear.html
Would love to know the points you disagree on, Pratikshya!
Thanks for tagging, but am afraid, I am not participating in this contest! 😛
So true- people who put me in tough times and the people who left me in tough times… nothing more needs to be said
Thanks for relating to the thoughts here, Bhagyashree 🙂
I’m with you on that. Sometimes however it’s not easy to let go of people even those who lead you into the tough times!
I know, it is easier said than done, but when we let go of such toxic relationships, we do ourselves a big favour… it gives us that inner peace and calm and helps us focus on positive things better!
Very well put. Every cloud indeed has a silver lining. It could appear to you as realization! 🙂
Very true. Thanks Shalini 🙂
I guess everyone can relate to this short but powerful post. Better to let them go, than to keep them in you heart or your mind allowing them to hurt you again and again.
‘…allowing them to hurt you again and again’..I liked the way you articulated this. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Rekha 🙂
lovely post and superb quote 🙂
Thanks Ankita 🙂
Hard times are good in a way as it makes us tough. At a certain point of time we have to let go of people who pull us down and surround ourselves by people who appreciate us and help us grow. Good one Shilpa !
Well said, Diana 🙂
To let go of toxic friendships was one of my resolution for 2013 and so I can relate with this wholeheartedly.
Wish you peace and happiness.
Glad that this piece resonates with you! :
Powerful advice there in your precise and strong dabble! Move on to the people who love you for you irrespective of the times…and move on from the rest!
* eesshh…drabble 🙂
Thanks Aditi! Glad that you liked this piece of writing! 🙂
Mmmm am not sure if am thakful for hard times… thou they definetely teach us lessons for life
Oh yes, the tough times do teach us a lot of valuable lessons and these learnings stay with us for life!
Your post made me think a lot. Hard times are great teachers. But I think forgiveness is a greater teacher certainly one that brings a lot of peace.
When you are letting go, you are in a way forgiving and moving on! Isn’t it?
i know the feeling… have seen unbelievably ridiculous betrayals in my life.. stuff that has broken me down to bits at times. But I’m glad that i got up from the rubble and more importantly, that i finally realized who were worth retaining in my life.
Oh yes, the tough times, help us separate the wheat from the chaff!
Amazingly put!
Thanks Privy!
People teach us the most, don’t they? I’m beginning to understand how I should only love my closest friends and let others be just a part of that social circle that really doesn’t matter.
A lesson well learnt!
Great poster and post, Shilpa. There comes a time when we have to lose the drama and focus on those that matter!
Yes, ‘lose the drama’… I like that! Thanks Vidya 🙂
Very powerful.
Thank you SG 🙂
very nice!!!! that’s why we must surround our self with people who make us happy, people who make us laugh, people who do not take advantage of us……they are the only ones worth keeping in our life…
True and for rest we must use Ctrl+Alt+Del 🙂
The result is that you are shining with all galore today 🙂
Only a coal after going through so much gets polished and wiser..hugs!
Thanks Ruchira! Hugs ♥
When I read this post, I felt an immediate connect because like many people have expressed here, I too know the feeling. We all have gone through stuff in our life that has brought us pain, difficulties, terrible agony and heartache. The people who help us through it are the ones who matter, who show us that the way forward is to pass on that gift of love at the right moment to others who need it to move on too. Most importantly, we also get to know those who are truly worth retaining in our life. This is a beautiful post, Shilpa and this took me back to my own life.
Thanks a lot, Swapna. So glad that you connect with this post so much. Agree with your thoughts. Tough times are big teachers!
We have all felt like that. And yes we need to remember those who have always been there… no matter what
True!!
Beautiful Shilpa and wow, you’ve achieved so much. What’s life wo struggle? Guess, life is the biggest teacher and I am at the cross road of life, struggling to find ma mark..crisis of sort. Guess! I gotta take a leaf from u:)
Oh yes, life is a big teacher! Wishing you all the very best as you achieve your dreams and goals, Vishal! 🙂
Superb !! A well written crispy in 100 words !! Don’t we all want friends who love us for what we are and not for what we have ? !
Well said, Sreeja! Thank you! 🙂
Amazed at the number of people who can relate to this post. I am sure there are many more out there who can relate. The post resonates with me too.
Thanks Asha and glad that you relate to this thought too! 🙂
Oh the scoundrel! Men! I loved this 55 story with its twists and turns packed with emotion and surprise! Brilliant! ♥
Thank you, Kathy 🙂