It’s a First…

I had been observing him for a long time. This time when I saw him again, an idea hit me. I chatted with him and took his phone number. He was too sweet and introduced me to his parents. With hellos and smiles, and general chit-chat, it was time to discuss business. With a lot of apprehensions, I shared my idea with them. I was expecting some resistance from their side but they floored me with an instant happy YES! In fact, they had been wanting for such a thing to happen for a long time.

I shared the developments with KG and he was perfectly in sync with it too.

We discussed the plan with Aaryan and he was non-committal about it, initially! Finally, a day before the D-day, he showed some reaction by flooding his eyes with tears! We tried to understand his reaction and addressed his concerns. And we had a boy who was all excited and who looked forward to the experience.

Yes, for the first time in 2 years, Aaryan went without me or KG, to school, after his Diwali break.

Last night, he went with his school mate and a senior from our city. With loads of instructions and guidelines, the 2 boys boarded the Volvo bus. Aaryan was thrilled to realize that he is considered a big responsible boy.

Since, it is a single bus that plies between the 2 cities, and also that we are frequent travellers, the bus driver and conductor were familiar to us. A word to them about the 2 boys and we were assured of their safety.

Today, in the morning, I got a call from an unknown number, I received the call and it was my big baby boy, calling from an STD/PCO at midway. What made me happy was that amongst the million instructions that we had given to Aaryan, calling from an STD/PCO was not a part of that! He informed about the first half of the journey and that at the midway he met some more school mates who were traveling in groups too and a mishap that he had lost his spectacles sometimes during the night! He had kept his glasses in the bus seat pocket before sleeping last night and it seemed they slipped from there and travelled elsewhere!! The boys searched but couldn’t locate the pair! Fortunately, he has 2 sets of glasses at school.

The whole morning after that was spent in looking at the wall clock and waiting for the clock to strike 2 pm and the phone to ring! And it did ring to inform in a happy chirpy voice that he is back at school.

A new experience… a step towards being responsible for your own self.

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42 thoughts on “It’s a First…

    • Agree, as parents we may be very apprehensive, but I have been seeing kids from Aaryan’s school traveling with me in the same bus since the last 2 years. Seeing them behave so responsibly when traveling alone or wit friends gave me the confidence that Aaryan can do it too! And his happy voice is still ringing in my ears, it meant like a big achievement for him! πŸ™‚

  1. Wow, this is so great…I remember that feeling myself when at 15 my parents allowed me to travel 18 hours from D’shala to Shimla…ALONE! That was my first and after that I was simply on my own πŸ™‚

    I am sure Aryan will cherish this memory forever. Good going Shilpa!
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    • I can relate to your experience, Kajal! The exciting feeling of new found freedom coupled with responsibility… a wow combination!
      I am sure he will and that is why I am saving it on my blog for posterity too! πŸ™‚

  2. It is a defining moment alright Shilpa, when you finally decide that your child is capable of traveling such a long distance on its own no matter what safety rails you place around your child. For the child it is a sense of freedom and responsibility at the same time, glad Aaryan handled himself admirably and reached safe. To this date whenever I travel between places I always call my mom to inform her it was all smooth…
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    • You are bang on, Reshma! The sense of freedom and responsibility can help a child learn a lot! I know the feeling, an SMS or a call can help ease a lot of stress, especially for parents who have this innate habit of worrying a lot! Even I do the same, still! πŸ™‚

  3. Congratulations to the little big boy for being a responsible and bold boy. Shilpa, i had a similar experience recently when my 16 year old took learners licence and drove on one of the busiest roads where army trucks and high way buses ply. Yes, indeed that’s a step towards making them independant at the same time assuring we are at the back to help them.

    • Wow! I can imagine the exhilaration and the sense of achievement on driving through a busy road!! That’s the way to do it, Asha… let them explore but be there to help/support too! Thank you πŸ™‚

    • Absolutely! As parents, it is tough to let go, but it is important to do so too at the right time! I read this somewhere ‘parents rarely let go of their children, so children let go of them’… guess that’s a terrible situation to be in!

  4. Very good thing that you did. That instills confidence in them. I let my son travel to India when he was 4 and 1/2 with our friends. Later, he went to Canada when he was 8 all by himself and then to India when he was nine again all by himself. πŸ™‚
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