Facebook Ke Side Effects?
- Friends have been to exotic locations for vacations and some seem to be going so very frequently. A million pictures are the proof to that!
- Friends are having a great time with family and friends… there is so much of laughter and smiles all around.
- Friends have such beautiful families and they all seem so much in love…
- Friends dine out at wonderful restaurants, go to high profile pubs and discotheques. The Places option on the Facebook is always ticking away… And the pictures of the food and the colourful drinks look so very enticing.
- Friends are achieving big in life… somebody’s got a High Performer certificate from the office, somebody has won a badminton match at the club, somebody met a celebrity at the airport, somebody spotted a tiger at the wild life sanctuary, a mention in the newspaper…
- Friends are buying so much… almost everybody seems to be having the latest and the best in technology… mobiles, laptops, tabs, SLR cameras, cars…
- Friends watch all the new movies in the theaters, almost everybody watched the recently concluded IPL matches live at the stadium…
Almost everybody has more than 200 ‘Friends’ on Facebook and you are bombarded with this news every second. Even if you are not on your laptop or computer for long, the smart phone keeps you connected with your Facebook Friends 24×7 and it’s an open secret that you are so very possessive of your smart phone, so much so, that a beep on the phone and you will not waste a second to check it and most of the times, you are anyways busy with it!
It’s like, you are suddenly not happy with the way your life is going, you wonder why those good things are not happening in your life and then comes the feeling of being left out or missing something real big in life, as compared to others!
And of course, there are so many good things about Facebook too… See what Susan has to say about it, here!
June 14, 2012 1:04 am|
Interesting read. As you said, people only share their achievements. It has also become a means of boasting/show-off.
June 14, 2012 2:19 pm|
Thanks Avada! Yes, for some its just a showing off platform, which gets very irritating after a while!
June 14, 2012 3:43 am|
You raise a very valid point, Shilpa. Psychologically FB is doing this to many people. I would say restrict the time on FB, and stay away from stuff that you know makes you feel depressed. Like you said, those posting the updates or photos are not intending to make you feel small. But, the extreme show off is quite putting off. And, sometimes I really wonder what pics people put up. Women looking like aunties, and older women trying desperately to look hip and hot, and yet all their friends swoon over them. This is a world full of hypocrisy :).
June 14, 2012 2:30 pm|
Very true… I believe, one must not compare his/her life with anybody… there are lows in everybody’s life and there are highs in everybody’s life… be satisfied with what you have!! Sounds like gyaan, but that is needed to be sane!
Talking of pics… Its amazing to see the pics people post… recently saw a real cozy pic of a couple and there were like 100 likes and the comments… my god… Everybody Loved It!! 😀
And hypocrisy… that abounds on FB!!
June 14, 2012 5:07 am|
Very well put! I have written on this very topic too, the effects of “facebook bragging”, do read it here….
June 14, 2012 5:23 pm|
Read your take on this… so very apt and true… “Grass is always greener on the other side of a Facebook post!!”
June 14, 2012 5:58 am|
The problem is when addiction happen. That is so with anything in life!
June 14, 2012 5:24 pm|
Oh yes, addiction of any kind is detrimental for anyone!
June 14, 2012 6:09 am|
No clue where I’d bracket myself into- FOMO or no FOMO! But either ways I am heavily hooked to it! You must have gauged that already I’m sure 😀
June 14, 2012 5:27 pm|
As long as it does not affect you (in a FOMO way), it’s ok… like Scribby said… FB for entertainment and network! :))
June 14, 2012 6:15 am|
I think mostly No FOMO 🙂 but like Deeps above says I’m badly hooked to it..for me it’s like being updated of friend’s life and updating them on mine..also I add only people whom I’m okay to share my life with..not all and sundry under obligation you know!
so I guess it’s mostly to get entertained and network with friends whom I can’t meet on daily basis…the only way for me to connect to them so closely is FB 🙂 so it rocks!
June 14, 2012 5:30 pm|
No FOMO and hooked to FB is simply awesome!! So, go on and enjoy connecting with Friends, Nu! Cheers 🙂
June 14, 2012 8:50 am|
I am in the no FOMO zone cause people only share their good times and all the secrets are hidden under those photos.
June 14, 2012 5:31 pm|
Oh yes, we dont know the other side of the picture!! 🙂
June 14, 2012 9:44 am|
ME is NO FOMO , I hardly go there, plus I know that if i start to put all that i do people will envy me HA HA HA HAHA 🙂 so why make them FOMO , I am doing all a favour he he he
Plus I do think as the above comment its not all real , people say something – do something else all the time , some just want to look good in front of others so say what they say ….
June 14, 2012 9:50 am|
// I know that if i start to put all that i do people will envy me HA HA HA HAHA 🙂 so why make them FOMO , I am doing all a favour he he he //
Great answer 22 g. 😀 Loved it.
June 14, 2012 5:33 pm|
@ Bikram : LOL…. that’s the spirit and so very considerate of you… not letting anyone suffer from FOMO!! Awesome 😀
Yes, hypocrisy, thy name is comments on Facebook (Most of the times!) 😀
June 14, 2012 9:48 am|
I am in NO-FOMO zone, 🙂
June 14, 2012 5:34 pm|
That’s so cool, Shilpa 🙂
Keep it that way, always! 🙂
June 15, 2012 6:04 am|
Shilpa,I agree.FB has actually become a show off platform.
Those who talk of their achievments and life style,perhaps are a disturbed lot internally.may be, they use FB a source of getting off their frustration.
June 21, 2012 7:44 pm|
Yeah, there is always the other side of the coin, which is not shown on FB!!
June 15, 2012 7:18 am|
What timing for this post! I went off FB again just 2-3 days ago!
June 21, 2012 7:44 pm|
June 15, 2012 2:19 pm|
I am In a no-Fomo zone. Yes,I was addicted to it but now I prefer to just stay updated. Blogging-yes I am addicted to it 😀
June 21, 2012 7:47 pm|
That’s great… NO FOMO and no addiction!!
Blogging is a very positive and healthy addiction, so enjoy!!
June 16, 2012 12:46 pm|
Good one….yeah out of 7 days in a week, a weekend is posted with partying at a pub. What about the other 6 days? 😀 Bang on Shilpa, liked the post a lot. Eyeopener.
This is another way to fit-in.
June 21, 2012 7:49 pm|
The FB walls are full of pics… not just the weekend party pics, but everyday, every moment clicks are too much too! Glad you liked this post! 🙂
June 16, 2012 12:57 pm|
Nice post on “FB ke Side Effects”
June 21, 2012 7:49 pm|
Thanks Shobha 🙂
June 16, 2012 2:00 pm|
hahaha. that was funny. honestly, i don’t have this FOMO, i get irritated because i don’t understand the point of adding someone to a network only to showcase you achievements. i do have a post on that but not going to put the link here coz we all know those syndromes.
i have deactivated my facebook account because for me it didn’t make any sense.
June 21, 2012 7:50 pm|
That’s exactly the point… FB is mostly used to show-off the good things in life!!
Will check out your post too! 🙂
June 16, 2012 2:45 pm|
No FOMO! I share my good photographs. Ignore bad ones 😀
Just kidding. Facebook has a lot of spams and useless links. I have unsubscribed from so many people. So they are in my friends’ list, but I don’t receive their updates. 😀
June 21, 2012 7:56 pm|
Wow, that’s a cool strategy!! I need to do that too! 😀
June 18, 2012 5:30 am|
No FOMO but I do feel it is turning into a platform for showing off. Interesting post and so true about the kind of posts you see..! 🙂
June 21, 2012 7:57 pm|
Glad you relate to it!!
June 18, 2012 6:32 pm|
No FOMO… Infact I really don’t feel like FaceBooking at all… 🙁 I suck at it.. And so my blog’s FB page just has 30 likes
June 21, 2012 7:58 pm|
June 18, 2012 7:11 pm|
I hate Facebook.. It’s a pain. I was a little more active than my current state a few yrs back, but just lost interest. There is nothing left unsaid..nothing private anymore. Everything is out in the open for good or bad. I don’t begrudge people putting up happy statuses or achievements and sidelining the awkward moments, but 24/7 is just a little too stifling. Besides, my worry is no one actually enjoys the moment focussing instead on the likes and comments.
Another media I dislike is twitter. Please do a typical Shilpa post on that too 🙂 …with a top ten annoying trends 😉
June 21, 2012 8:00 pm|
Very true… this 24X7 info download is way too much and that is what puts you off!
Am working on the Twitter post… will be up soon! :))
June 18, 2012 9:25 pm|
Me NO FOMO! I have 500+ friends and they will throw stones on me if I keep updating about where I go, what I do etc. I hardly upload any pictures of mine, and that too, I restrict the no. of people to whom it is visible. But yeah…all of us hooked with this thing isn’t it. So I tend to update some stupid things on my wall…You should’ve known by now..if my fb updates are FOMO or non FOMO types 🙂
June 21, 2012 8:05 pm|
You are the most traveled person, for sure!! :))
June 20, 2012 12:20 pm|
me no fomo! I just cursory glance through my news feed once..I use FB mostly to upload pics and to participate in two Bangalore based groups.
June 21, 2012 8:06 pm|
Wow! That’s the optimal utilization of FB!! :))
October 9, 2012 8:22 am|
No FOMO. This post is an excellent companion to my post. How do we link each other?
I have shared this on my Facebook page for my blog.
October 9, 2012 8:30 am|
That’s a cool idea, Susan! Have linked your post here!!