My theme for this year’s Blogging from A to Z April Challenge is Marriage from A to Z in 55 Words. V is for sharing common Vision, Values and Life Paths in Marriage!
She daydreamed about it. He had nightmares.
She felt it would change their lives. He wouldn’t change it for the world.
She tried anger and reasoning.
He remained adamant and stuck to his guns.
Despite love for each other, they had an elephant in the room.
She wanted to have a child and he didn’t!
A Word to the Wise
A common vision can unite people of very different temperaments.― Timothy Keller
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38 Responses
Yes having a child is a major couple decision and very rarely we see both have the same thoughts at the same time.
Well expressed Shilpa !
I love that advice, not to think alike but to think together. My husband and I often don’t see eye to eye but we generally end up thinking together eventually. Great post. You are really rocking this A-Z!
wonderful advice Shilpa, to think together. Every marriage has its shares hidden elephants, thinking together is a good first step.
hw difficult it is when two people want to go 2 different ways! good one shilpa 🙂
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That IS a big decision – and hard if they don’t agree … Well built up, Shilpa:-) The advise is great though – to think together but not necessarily alike..:-)
To think alike is the most important and practical advice for a couple. Very nicely woven.
This one is a particularly tough decision, having kids part. But I know you’re concentrating on United Visions in general. It is often difficult to see exactly what the other person sees. For this V to be effective, the U also has to be strong. In that case, a united vision becomes easier 🙂
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Great advice Shilpa. Love the quote by Robert Dodds. I hope you are going to compile these into a book – it’s a best seller in my eyes.
That quote shared in the end just sums it all !
Good that u wrote about it… 😐
Definitely an issue both parties need to see eye to eye on. Unfortunately I think sometimes I think couples do discuss this before marriage but they often agree with the other partner thinking they might be able to change their partner’s mind…
Taking on a very big issue today! What will they do now? How will they arrive at a common view/vision for their life together? A tough one….
Great post!!
It is critical that, before they marry each other, the husband and wife have a common vision on important foreseeable issues, and an identical vision on how to handle the situation when one or both partners genuinely change their vision on a particular issue.
Unfortunately, in many cases, some of these issues are not discussed before marriage or they are glossed over. There are pink elephants in the room, but their existence is either not known or not acknowledged.
I like the Slim Shady lyrics by Eminem that goes……He is a visionary his vision is scary !! 😀 :P… Good Post !
PhenoMenon
So true we have to think together and not individually
Thankfully my husband and I both agree on not having a child. I can’t imagine how it would have been otherwise.
Indeed reaching a common consensus – a little give, a little take – is wat marriage is abt
Wow! brilliant! This was my first choice too! But changed it later….where there is no common vision that marriage is headed for disaster
yesss so true its not to think alike but Think together …
I hope the two can resolve and think together to a common destination 🙂
Bikram
You have explained it here so nicely… I agree with a quote : “A common vision can unite people of very different temperaments.”― Timothy Keller
I have seen this happening!
Conflict of interest and how they see the future often cause this blurred vision. Nice post
This an important decision and both the husband wife need to discuss this patiently and try to understand if any has a difft view point! Again a wise 55er Shilpa!
Sometimes it is living together, but thinking unlike. ..and that creates disharmony….
Shilpa,
I think one needs to have a Vision to understand other’s Visions.
Take care
That’s a might big elephant to have in one’s marriage room. Sadly, I’ve seen a marriage end because the couple waited too long to discuss this issue. :/
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Sigh! The eternal dilemma!!
Its always good to be on the same page as a couple especially while deciding to have kids..
Good post Shilpa 🙂 and interesting. Nice gems of wisdom all through april.
that’s the saddest part..when both do not share a common vision…
A lovely quote.Nothing is impossible if we can think alike.
Excellent advice.
It is very important for any couple to be having similar thought process when it comes to starting a family.
By and large,they are.Isnt it?
That quote says it the best. Agree to disagree is also another way of being harmonious in a relationship. Also keeps the individuality intact. Sigh, but a lot of couples face this elephant, don’t they?
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yes, a little give and a little take is one of the main ingredient of a harmonious relationship. Loved the selection of your quotes shilpa, adds value to your post.
now that’s a huge elephant. Loved the quote.
Very interesting and so true… vision that is similar is very impt!
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Such an interesting 100 words to elucidate the point of vision. True having a common goal goes a long way in strengthening a relationship..
That’s a tough situation to handle.
I like it: A common vision can unite people of very different temperaments.