M is for Misunderstandings
My theme for this year’s Blogging from A to Z April Challenge is Marriage from A to Z in 55 Words. M is for Misunderstandings in Marriage!
Her lips quivered as tears rolled down her cheeks.
He wanted to leap forward and comfort her.
But then something stubborn inside, stopped him.
The silence stretched out between them.
They stared at each other, weighing the possibility of what could be happening to them.
All because he believed in HIS meaning of her words.
A Word to the Wise
It’s dreadful what little things lead people to misunderstand each other. – L.M. Montgomery.
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April 15, 2014 12:20 am|
I seem to have a rare talent for misunderstanding things. So, often I will repeat back what has been said to me to make sure.
LuAnn Braley
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Back Porchervations
April 16, 2014 1:05 am|
Repeating or paraphrasing is the best to avoid any misunderstanding or communication gap. 🙂
April 15, 2014 12:47 am|
Yup…we should cut the ego not the relationship 🙂
April 16, 2014 1:06 am|
Yup… me must banish the ego, always!! 🙂
April 15, 2014 4:03 am|
Oh yes , when there is an argument there is some invisible rope holding you right back from making the first reconciliatory move 🙂
April 16, 2014 1:07 am|
And that leads to so many complexities and problems. If only, we’d let go of that ego!
April 15, 2014 4:56 am|
I learned when my folks died not to sweat the small stuff because losing that person to death was a big deal. Once that happened everything that I had ever fought with them about was forgotten. It no longer mattered. All that mattered was how much I missed them and after a while…I only really remembered the good things. So when my husband and I fight I get my point across and then go on because when it all gets down to it, I love him and would die if I lost him. Lovely post and great advice! ♥
April 16, 2014 1:09 am|
That was such a great learning you are practicing in your life, Kathy! Hugs and stay blessed always 🙂 ♥
April 15, 2014 5:15 am|
We should all carry a pocket ego-cutter, it sure comes handy in all relationships. Loved the way you sent the message across Shilpa 🙂
April 16, 2014 1:09 am|
I liked the phrase, pocket ego-cutter! Thanks for sharing that Reshma 🙂
April 15, 2014 7:12 am|
Ego is such a relationship killer..is it not? SO many times we have all been here! Great story!
April 16, 2014 1:10 am|
Oh yes, if only we’d crush it before it rears its ugly head! 🙂
April 15, 2014 7:14 am|
I love your end-pieces almost as much I love your 55ers Shilpa. You should convert your posts into a relationship handbook. This is such great advice. If only we could cut out our egos and follow our instincts fights would get sorted so much faster.
April 16, 2014 1:11 am|
Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words, Tulika 🙂
April 15, 2014 7:27 am|
You have very correctly pointed out that if a relationship has to succeed, ego has no place.
April 16, 2014 1:12 am|
True, ego is the biggest enemy in any relationship!
April 15, 2014 7:36 am|
so true!!
We should always talk it out.. Ego hurts a relationship and misunderstandings cause rifts…
nicely expressed Shilpa!
April 16, 2014 1:12 am|
Well said, Pixie. Having all channels of communication open is the key!
April 15, 2014 7:42 am|
Very true and very well said… Being stubborn kills a relationship..
April 16, 2014 1:13 am|
True that!
April 15, 2014 8:24 am|
I totally agree. The quote is so brilliant. 🙂 another word of wisdom to be remembered. 🙂
April 16, 2014 1:13 am|
Glad you liked it, Raj 🙂
April 15, 2014 10:09 am|
And that is why communication is so important in a relationship. We should just let each other speak whatever is in our heart. Friendship before love and marriage – guess that’s the key phrase.
April 16, 2014 1:14 am|
Agree, communication is the key to sort all relationship issues!
April 15, 2014 10:57 am|
Mmmm…. a very good eye-opener ! And a deep point to think about. Only if there was no misunderstanding, or only if that was solved, many relations would still be alive !
April 16, 2014 1:15 am|
Yes, if only they were open to talk it out rather than resenting or ignoring each other!
April 15, 2014 11:00 am|
Nice message and nice quotes. Believing his Meaning of HER words is very dangerous
Thanks
April 16, 2014 1:15 am|
Thanks Afshan 🙂
April 15, 2014 11:43 am|
Misunderstanding can damage a relationship beyond repair.
April 16, 2014 1:15 am|
Yes, sadly!
April 15, 2014 12:13 pm|
very poignant post.. one should cut the ego and not the relationship..
April 16, 2014 1:15 am|
Thanks Simple Girl!
April 15, 2014 12:36 pm|
There should be no space for ego in a relationship between a husband and a wife…Or else misunderstandings smother the love that is..Nicely written Shilpa..
April 16, 2014 1:17 am|
True. A single incident of misunderstanding can negate the love and care of years!!
April 15, 2014 12:47 pm|
Misunderstanding is usually overrated and made into something much bigger than what it is………….. as the saying goes Khoda pahad nikla chooha…
PhenoMenon
April 16, 2014 1:18 am|
Well said. And also we have the unique ability to listen to one story and understand another!!
April 15, 2014 12:48 pm|
Oh ego….ruins everything….just talk it out I felt like screaming!
April 16, 2014 1:19 am|
Yes, one misunderstanding can poison the relationship! 😐
April 15, 2014 12:55 pm|
Misunderstandings cause a lot of heartache and pain to the couples’ and their egos don’t allow for admitting their mistakes. Lovely insight into yet another aspect of marriage.
April 16, 2014 1:20 am|
Well said and they should be sorted out timely or the distances creep in the relationship!
April 15, 2014 1:08 pm|
“All because he believed in his meaning of her words.” Very well said. The root cause of almost all misunderstandings. If only we can learn to not believe so blindly all our understandings of things…..
April 16, 2014 1:21 am|
True. Like they say, we have the unique ability to listen to one story and understand another.
April 15, 2014 1:22 pm|
the last line is so powerful….his meaning of her words…..that is what causes the most misunderstandings…..loved this one!
April 16, 2014 1:21 am|
Thanks S 🙂
April 15, 2014 2:00 pm|
I think misunderstanding and marriages go hand-in-hand. But it’s good to talk it out and sort out the differences. And after few years couples develop this tendency of (mis-) understanding each other without a word
April 16, 2014 1:22 am|
I liked the complete (mis) understanding between couples 😀 Yes, it is so true
April 15, 2014 2:50 pm|
And most of the times these misunderstandings stem from very minor issues. Like you pointed out, ego may be the culprit. Loved the quote you used.
April 16, 2014 1:23 am|
Well said. We make mountains out of mole hills!
April 15, 2014 2:51 pm|
I know so many couples who struggle this way. Why can’t people just talk it out?
April 16, 2014 1:24 am|
Yes, if only they’d let go of their ego and take the step to sort the issues!
April 15, 2014 3:51 pm|
Oh so true… misunderstandings have literally ruined so many key relations in my life. Would have done anything in hindsight to right some wrongs on my part,..
April 16, 2014 1:27 am|
Happens to all of us!! They say the worst distance between 2 people is misunderstanding!
April 15, 2014 4:34 pm|
Very well put Shilpa. Often though the “cut your ego” is a one way street and that can get very tiring.
April 16, 2014 1:29 am|
True, but then that’s the way to get the relationship back on track. Isnt it?
April 15, 2014 8:06 pm|
What great words of advice! Those could be applied to any relationship, always good to stop and think about it.
Mr.McLovin at Fuel For The Furnace
April 16, 2014 1:29 am|
Yes, this is applicable to all our relationships. Thanks for stopping by Mr. McLovin 🙂
April 15, 2014 8:21 pm|
This is very true, Shilpa. The longest distance between two people is the one caused by misunderstanding. Excellently conveyed.
And your shareaholic button is acting up again 🙁 Won’t let me tweet.
April 16, 2014 1:31 am|
Well said, Shailaja!
I saw that… I guess, something is wrong with some posts. Twitter is working well with other posts, though!! Dont know how to sort it out! 🙁
April 15, 2014 8:47 pm|
Shilpa,
Absolutely right you are. Ego is the topmost killer of relationships.
Take care
April 16, 2014 1:31 am|
Thanks Mr Jack.
April 15, 2014 9:31 pm|
Very nice message conveyed!!
~S(t)ri
Participant|AtoZ Challenge 2014
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April 16, 2014 1:32 am|
Thanks Sri.
April 15, 2014 11:30 pm|
you couldn’t have described it better when you wrote, he believed in HIS meaning of her words… true!
April 16, 2014 1:32 am|
Thank you Gauri.
April 15, 2014 11:40 pm|
If only people could understand what ego does to relationships, a lot of them could have been saved. great one Shilpa.
April 16, 2014 1:32 am|
yes, if only…. *sigh*
April 16, 2014 2:24 am|
many relations end due to misunderstandings and the prolonged silence that follow! lovely 55-er!
April 16, 2014 11:41 am|
Misunderstandings are tragic. Even worse is when people let their ego get in the way and do not want to listen.
I loved your picture quote!
April 16, 2014 2:51 pm|
It happens in relationships! Yes it happens a lot!!!
April 16, 2014 6:52 pm|
Misunderstandings are bound to happen in any marriage/relationship.
What is more important is make up sooner than it hurts the base of relationship
April 17, 2014 10:36 am|
Wise words ” cut the ego, not the relationship”. Wish many divorced people knew this shilpa. This is the main reason for many marriages to crumble. Recently two of my co-residents who had been even voted the best jodi on new year, separated after a simple fight on jan 25.
April 22, 2014 3:34 pm|
Misunderstandings occur so frequently in relationships thanks to our own perceptions and interpretation of things…
May 2, 2014 1:23 pm|
Ego is the biggest conspirator against any relationship, especially in marriage.