My theme for this year’s Blogging from A to Z April Challenge is Marriage from A to Z in 55 Words. M is for Misunderstandings in Marriage!
Her lips quivered as tears rolled down her cheeks.
He wanted to leap forward and comfort her.
But then something stubborn inside, stopped him.
The silence stretched out between them.
They stared at each other, weighing the possibility of what could be happening to them.
All because he believed in HIS meaning of her words.
A Word to the Wise
It’s dreadful what little things lead people to misunderstand each other. – L.M. Montgomery.
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I seem to have a rare talent for misunderstanding things. So, often I will repeat back what has been said to me to make sure.
LuAnn Braley
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Repeating or paraphrasing is the best to avoid any misunderstanding or communication gap. 🙂
Yup…we should cut the ego not the relationship 🙂
Yup… me must banish the ego, always!! 🙂
Oh yes , when there is an argument there is some invisible rope holding you right back from making the first reconciliatory move 🙂
And that leads to so many complexities and problems. If only, we’d let go of that ego!
I learned when my folks died not to sweat the small stuff because losing that person to death was a big deal. Once that happened everything that I had ever fought with them about was forgotten. It no longer mattered. All that mattered was how much I missed them and after a while…I only really remembered the good things. So when my husband and I fight I get my point across and then go on because when it all gets down to it, I love him and would die if I lost him. Lovely post and great advice! ♥
That was such a great learning you are practicing in your life, Kathy! Hugs and stay blessed always 🙂 ♥
We should all carry a pocket ego-cutter, it sure comes handy in all relationships. Loved the way you sent the message across Shilpa 🙂
I liked the phrase, pocket ego-cutter! Thanks for sharing that Reshma 🙂
Ego is such a relationship killer..is it not? SO many times we have all been here! Great story!
Oh yes, if only we’d crush it before it rears its ugly head! 🙂
I love your end-pieces almost as much I love your 55ers Shilpa. You should convert your posts into a relationship handbook. This is such great advice. If only we could cut out our egos and follow our instincts fights would get sorted so much faster.
Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words, Tulika 🙂
You have very correctly pointed out that if a relationship has to succeed, ego has no place.
True, ego is the biggest enemy in any relationship!
so true!!
We should always talk it out.. Ego hurts a relationship and misunderstandings cause rifts…
nicely expressed Shilpa!
Well said, Pixie. Having all channels of communication open is the key!
Very true and very well said… Being stubborn kills a relationship..
True that!
I totally agree. The quote is so brilliant. 🙂 another word of wisdom to be remembered. 🙂
Glad you liked it, Raj 🙂
And that is why communication is so important in a relationship. We should just let each other speak whatever is in our heart. Friendship before love and marriage – guess that’s the key phrase.
Agree, communication is the key to sort all relationship issues!
Mmmm…. a very good eye-opener ! And a deep point to think about. Only if there was no misunderstanding, or only if that was solved, many relations would still be alive !
Yes, if only they were open to talk it out rather than resenting or ignoring each other!
Nice message and nice quotes. Believing his Meaning of HER words is very dangerous
Thanks
Thanks Afshan 🙂
Misunderstanding can damage a relationship beyond repair.
Yes, sadly!
very poignant post.. one should cut the ego and not the relationship..
Thanks Simple Girl!
There should be no space for ego in a relationship between a husband and a wife…Or else misunderstandings smother the love that is..Nicely written Shilpa..
True. A single incident of misunderstanding can negate the love and care of years!!
Misunderstanding is usually overrated and made into something much bigger than what it is………….. as the saying goes Khoda pahad nikla chooha…
PhenoMenon
Well said. And also we have the unique ability to listen to one story and understand another!!
Oh ego….ruins everything….just talk it out I felt like screaming!
Yes, one misunderstanding can poison the relationship! 😐
Misunderstandings cause a lot of heartache and pain to the couples’ and their egos don’t allow for admitting their mistakes. Lovely insight into yet another aspect of marriage.
Well said and they should be sorted out timely or the distances creep in the relationship!
“All because he believed in his meaning of her words.” Very well said. The root cause of almost all misunderstandings. If only we can learn to not believe so blindly all our understandings of things…..
True. Like they say, we have the unique ability to listen to one story and understand another.
the last line is so powerful….his meaning of her words…..that is what causes the most misunderstandings…..loved this one!
Thanks S 🙂
I think misunderstanding and marriages go hand-in-hand. But it’s good to talk it out and sort out the differences. And after few years couples develop this tendency of (mis-) understanding each other without a word
I liked the complete (mis) understanding between couples 😀 Yes, it is so true
And most of the times these misunderstandings stem from very minor issues. Like you pointed out, ego may be the culprit. Loved the quote you used.
Well said. We make mountains out of mole hills!
I know so many couples who struggle this way. Why can’t people just talk it out?
Yes, if only they’d let go of their ego and take the step to sort the issues!
Oh so true… misunderstandings have literally ruined so many key relations in my life. Would have done anything in hindsight to right some wrongs on my part,..
Happens to all of us!! They say the worst distance between 2 people is misunderstanding!
Very well put Shilpa. Often though the “cut your ego” is a one way street and that can get very tiring.
True, but then that’s the way to get the relationship back on track. Isnt it?
What great words of advice! Those could be applied to any relationship, always good to stop and think about it.
Mr.McLovin at Fuel For The Furnace
Yes, this is applicable to all our relationships. Thanks for stopping by Mr. McLovin 🙂
This is very true, Shilpa. The longest distance between two people is the one caused by misunderstanding. Excellently conveyed.
And your shareaholic button is acting up again 🙁 Won’t let me tweet.
Well said, Shailaja!
I saw that… I guess, something is wrong with some posts. Twitter is working well with other posts, though!! Dont know how to sort it out! 🙁
Shilpa,
Absolutely right you are. Ego is the topmost killer of relationships.
Take care
Thanks Mr Jack.
Very nice message conveyed!!
~S(t)ri
Participant|AtoZ Challenge 2014
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Thanks Sri.
you couldn’t have described it better when you wrote, he believed in HIS meaning of her words… true!
Thank you Gauri.
If only people could understand what ego does to relationships, a lot of them could have been saved. great one Shilpa.
yes, if only…. *sigh*
many relations end due to misunderstandings and the prolonged silence that follow! lovely 55-er!
Misunderstandings are tragic. Even worse is when people let their ego get in the way and do not want to listen.
I loved your picture quote!
It happens in relationships! Yes it happens a lot!!!
Misunderstandings are bound to happen in any marriage/relationship.
What is more important is make up sooner than it hurts the base of relationship
Wise words ” cut the ego, not the relationship”. Wish many divorced people knew this shilpa. This is the main reason for many marriages to crumble. Recently two of my co-residents who had been even voted the best jodi on new year, separated after a simple fight on jan 25.
Misunderstandings occur so frequently in relationships thanks to our own perceptions and interpretation of things…
Ego is the biggest conspirator against any relationship, especially in marriage.