U is to Understand
My theme for this yearβs Blogging from A to Z April Challenge is Marriage from A to Z in 55 Words. U is to Understand Each Other in Marriage!
She sat huddled in the corner, hugging her knees as the tears streamed down her face, quite quietly.
He looked up from the book he was reading every once in a while but made no attempt to console her.
He knew that today she didn’t need him to hold her but just let her be!
A Word to the Wise
Walk with me for a while, my friendβyou in my shoes, I in yoursβand then let us talk.
β Richelle E. Goodrich
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April 24, 2014 1:31 am|
Yes, Understanding and accepting the imperfectness of each other is very important in marriage. Nicely written with a subtle incident. Thanks.
April 24, 2014 1:48 am|
Understanding when to do what…it’s so important and it comes with time
April 24, 2014 6:44 am|
understanding certainly is important in any relationship! understanding each other and acting accordingly is what keeps us going π
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April 24, 2014 6:49 am|
Understanding is important. I can’t, however, imagine sitting in someones presence and crying without wanting some response from them. Some comfort. Some acknowledgement that I was suffering.
April 24, 2014 7:04 am|
Awww- that is a sad image though … wonder what happened to her. Crying alone is sad… You bring the scene so well alive, Shilpa..:-)
April 24, 2014 7:20 am|
The importance of understanding, in marriage or in any relationship, is brought out well by your 55er and by Richelle E. Goodrich’s quote.
The sad truth is, everybody wants to be understood, but only a few genuinely try to understand others.
April 24, 2014 8:07 am|
That’s actually such a practical thing to do. Sometimes, we don’t want to talk or be talked to. All that we want is some me time, just a few minutes to be with oneself and settle down at peace. Understanding that is very important. And yes, understanding is one of the most important pillars in marriage !! Well said, Shilpa ji π
April 24, 2014 10:22 am|
Very true. I think it is important early on in a marriage to lay down guidelines for each other in conflict situations. As you mentioned, some people need some time off. Some others need to be pacified immediately. Many more go quiet for a day or two.
April 24, 2014 11:01 am|
Sometimes silence and an understanding glance can say so much more than words. Loved this simple yet powerful 55-er, Shilpa
April 24, 2014 1:31 pm|
Hehe I just came from Naba’s blog where her protagonist left her husband because he did not let her be! Yes, in marriage, one must know when to just let the other person be and when to console and your partner requires a comforting hug. And this comes, I guess, after years of being and understanding with each other.
April 24, 2014 1:37 pm|
Understanding others is a quality,but in the case of a married couple it is sometimes good to let the partner be!
April 24, 2014 1:39 pm|
The man must have a crystal ball. Most men are usually clueless. Nice one Shilpa some days we just need to be left alone.
April 24, 2014 2:17 pm|
I think this is a philosophy that can make life so much easier. When you grant your family and friends understanding, they become so much more comfortable with you. They can relax, be themselves with you because they know even when they err, they will not be judged. It’s a beautiful gift.
April 24, 2014 3:27 pm|
Shilpa well picturised and so true at times we need a hsoulder, at times we need to be let alone and if the spouse understands the difference, its superb
April 24, 2014 4:26 pm|
to understand each other despite our obvious deifferences is the secret of any happy relationship…
April 24, 2014 5:18 pm|
Wondering what was troubling her that made her to cry so much. Wish there was another way of understanding he could have displayed; either by bringing her a cup of tea or a scented towel to wipe her face. Can’t get her teary face out of my mind, very well written, Shilpa.
April 24, 2014 6:20 pm|
Understanding is essential for any relationship!!! π π Esp in marriages!
April 24, 2014 6:29 pm|
mutual understanding is so important in a relationship. Over the years, when you stay with the same person, one kinda starts reading their minds π
April 24, 2014 7:15 pm|
So true,but thats the key to all troubles too.
April 24, 2014 8:08 pm|
yea….understanding is so important…and to have an understanding partner is such a blessing!!
April 24, 2014 8:18 pm|
There are days like that when understanding, space is the best way to a beautiful relationship. Beautifully said, Shilpa and hope many couples understand that letting be self bring couples together:)
April 24, 2014 8:45 pm|
I don’t think a marriage (or any relationship) can thrive when there is no understanding. And you have to be willing to try to understand, even if you have no real world knowledge of what your partner is experiencing.
Thanks for the post.
April 24, 2014 8:46 pm|
Shilpa,
Does any couple survive marriage happily without Understanding?
Take care
April 24, 2014 10:09 pm|
Understanding each other is very important.. but this story tugged my heart just a little.. because when I see someone sad or crying – my first instinct is to hug them.
April 24, 2014 10:55 pm|
That’s a hard one – to know exactly what to do when.
April 24, 2014 10:57 pm|
Very true Shilpa, understanding each other is the foundation on which a marriage grows…
April 25, 2014 9:48 am|
It’s hard to sometimes know what to do at the right time… π Nice 55-er
April 25, 2014 10:35 am|
Nicely brought out the value of quiet understanding…when you just have to let the other person be….Quite a good post.
April 25, 2014 4:19 pm|
Perfect understanding, indeed. Everyone’s conflict handling style is different! π
April 25, 2014 4:28 pm|
how did i miss this one ..
yes understanding is so important …
April 26, 2014 6:10 am|
Yes,unbderstanding can take a couple a long way which should give each partner space for oneself and still be in love
April 26, 2014 2:35 pm|
True, there are times when one likes to be left alone. An understanding companion is a blessing.
April 26, 2014 8:54 pm|
Just my opinion, but he seems a little hard hearted. If someone is crying, it would be my first instinct to offer comfort. On the other hand, it would depend on the personalities involved.
May 2, 2014 12:00 pm|
A key ingredient in the recipe of married life.
May 10, 2014 10:11 pm|
Loved the quote. A meaningful advice!
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