C is for Conflict
My theme for this year’s Blogging from A to Z April Challenge is Marriage from A to Z in 55 Words. Today’s post is on Conflict in Marriage. 
He watched the distant sea from his office.
Out of nowhere the sea swelled up and enormous waves started lashing the coast.
The winds howled and added to the cacophony of his inner turmoil.
He switched off the lights and wondered if the imminent storm would be as turbulent as the one brewing at home.
A Word to the Wise Be quick to resolve conflicts before they mature to become wars. The energetic crocodile was once a delicate egg! Israelmore Ayivor
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April 3, 2014 12:11 am|
Yay! I am first!!! I love the last line, “The energetic crocodile was once a delicate egg” Can’t be truer than that.
April 6, 2014 3:33 pm|
Yes and your first! And yes, I loved it too 🙂
April 3, 2014 12:18 am|
Thoughtful and Deep 🙂
April 6, 2014 3:34 pm|
Thank you Siva! 🙂
April 3, 2014 12:31 am|
Like I’ve heard before, “Never go to bed angry.” More great advice Shilpa! Very appropriate picture, too! You are takin’ care of business on this A to Z journey … and I applaud you!
LuAnn Braley
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Back Porchervations
April 6, 2014 3:39 pm|
The thought you shared goes with the pic so well, LuAnn! Thanks a lot for your encouraging words! ♥ 🙂
April 3, 2014 12:32 am|
Wow, that quote just makes sense.
BTW, I feel to resolve any kind of conflict, one must always keep the lines of communication open at all times, else it just collapses 🙂 Nice 55er!
April 6, 2014 3:39 pm|
True that, nothing is possible without communication! Thanks Kajal! 🙂
April 3, 2014 12:37 am|
Love the quote – so wise and absolutely true!
April 6, 2014 3:39 pm|
Thank you Aditi!
April 3, 2014 12:42 am|
Very profound. Am loving your posts on this theme.
April 6, 2014 3:40 pm|
Thanks a lot, Parul!
April 3, 2014 1:27 am|
This is very good advice! Communication is so important. If you don’t talk about things, the problem festers and becomes worse than it was in the beginning.
Happy A to Z-ing! from Laura Marcella @ Wavy Lines
April 6, 2014 3:44 pm|
True. We must not let small problems turn into big ones! By not addressing them, we allow them to grow into big issues!!
April 3, 2014 2:13 am|
Love the imagery in the story. Sometimes our lives do mirror mother nature… 🙂
Being someone who liked to avoid conflict, I’m familiar with how things can eventually build up to breaking point
April 6, 2014 3:46 pm|
Thanks PB! I know what you mean, avoiding conflicts can be a short term strategy. But sooner or later it turns into a big messy thing!
April 3, 2014 7:19 am|
The delicate egg is (generally) protected by the powerful mother crocodile!
April 6, 2014 3:48 pm|
🙄 🙄
April 3, 2014 7:39 am|
Conflicts appear regularly in any relationship, and must be resolved, not ignored.
Great quote! Greater 55er!! I could visualise the run up to the imminent coastal storm.
April 6, 2014 3:50 pm|
Well said. Conflicts should never be suppressed, rather should be sorted out ASAP! Thanks a lot, PI 🙂
April 3, 2014 7:43 am|
Beautiful imagery 😀 So so in love with the crocodile here 😉 Waiting for the D now, Shilpa ji 🙂
April 6, 2014 3:50 pm|
Thank you so much, Sreeja! 🙂 ♥
April 3, 2014 8:29 am|
The same applied to all the conflict s on earth leave alone the ones at home. When will mankind realize This ?
April 6, 2014 3:51 pm|
Hope the realization dawns soon!
April 3, 2014 8:30 am|
Only if resolving conflict was that easy! Great post! Could sense the emotion in every line!
April 6, 2014 3:52 pm|
True but then nothing really worthwhile ever comes easy in life. Thank you Danny!
April 3, 2014 8:34 am|
Calm before the storm ! Good story with a good message
April 6, 2014 3:52 pm|
Thank you GS 🙂
April 3, 2014 8:57 am|
Loving your 55 fictions for the challenge ….. another great one
April 6, 2014 3:53 pm|
Thank you Rajrupa!
April 3, 2014 11:43 am|
Never go to sleep with unresolved stuff, is a good idea to keep a marriage intact! 🙂
April 6, 2014 3:53 pm|
That’s the bestest advice to resolve conflicts!! 🙂
April 3, 2014 12:57 pm|
I agree we should never go to sleep without resolving a conflict else it keeps brewing…nicely written Shilpa!
Random Thoughts Naba
April 6, 2014 3:54 pm|
Yeah and becomes a BIG thing and more so in our own head!
Thanks Nabanita!
April 3, 2014 1:07 pm|
tht comparision with crocodile was so apt….
April 6, 2014 3:55 pm|
We must thank Israelmore Ayivor!! 😀
April 3, 2014 1:55 pm|
You are such a genius Shilpa!!
I started this challenge today, and believe me when i read your posts I was totally impressed. I have always loved your blog and your writing style, but taking up a blogging challenge with a theme in itself is challenging; and to top that selecting a sub- theme within that is even more courageous!
Wish you all the very best and would be looking forward to every post of yours…:) cheers…
April 6, 2014 3:57 pm|
Thank you for your warm words D! Glad that you are doing this challenge too! Hopping over to your blog in a short while! And all the very best to you too 🙂
April 3, 2014 2:12 pm|
next time am gonna solve any problem in the initial stage only 🙂 taking up ur advice 😉
April 6, 2014 3:58 pm|
That’s super, Swathi! Good luck!! 🙂
April 3, 2014 2:42 pm|
Very well written article!!!
April 6, 2014 3:58 pm|
Thanks Shirisha!
April 3, 2014 2:43 pm|
Your short post did convey a lot 🙂
Liked the picture too
April 6, 2014 3:59 pm|
Thks a lot Satya!
April 3, 2014 3:37 pm|
Aah…the storm brewing at home….that’s a very good way to put it, Shilpa. And once again, a very apt quote to go with this theme.
April 6, 2014 3:58 pm|
Thanks a lot, Beloo, glad you liked it!
April 3, 2014 3:45 pm|
You’re right conflicts should be resolved quickly.. often the fight is who goes first!!
April 6, 2014 3:59 pm|
Yes, sometimes ego comes in too!
April 3, 2014 4:07 pm|
Loved that quote! <3
April 6, 2014 4:00 pm|
Thanks Sheethal!
April 3, 2014 4:42 pm|
Conflicts are worse than arguments, they should be resolved very quickly 🙂
April 6, 2014 4:00 pm|
True that!
April 3, 2014 5:22 pm|
The quote was so apt….
Loved your 55words…
Arguments should be nipped at the bud….
April 6, 2014 4:00 pm|
Thanks Sitara!
April 3, 2014 5:31 pm|
Sometimes the conflict can be so strong, that quick resolutions are not possible. But yes, we need to at least make the effort before it snowballs into something out of proportion. I really like these snippets and views into the human condition that you provide daily, Shilpa.
April 6, 2014 4:37 pm|
Yes, some conflicts take longer to resolve but as you rightly said, attempts to sort them out should be made. Thanks a lot, Shailaja, glad you liking these presentations!
April 3, 2014 5:32 pm|
I loved the imagery you used in this piece! Very true that it is never good to let a fight fester for long. It is much better to get the matter resolved as soon as possible. ♥
April 6, 2014 7:55 pm|
Thanks Kathy! True, the more a issue is prolonged, the complex it gets!
April 3, 2014 6:19 pm|
So true Shilpa. You are providing great Guru Mantras for a successful marriage. The image is so apt!
April 6, 2014 7:56 pm|
Thanks a lot Ma’am. Glad you like it! 🙂
April 3, 2014 6:29 pm|
Things I love:
1. your posts are nice and short.
2. you write so beautifully and fit so much wisdom into such a short string of words.
umm, I think that’s about it? 😀
I’m single so can’t really relate, but I do know that holding in angry words (as you mentioned in post “A”) is not healthy at all. if you’re spending your relationship doing that, it’s best to stop immediately … and if necessary, break up!
April 6, 2014 8:18 pm|
Thanks a lot, Trisha. Glad you are liked the short fiction that I am writing here! 🙂
You are right, winning an argument with a smile rather than angry words holds true in all relationships, same is the case with Balance and Conflicts… actually the theme, I am using has its applicability in managing and maintaining other relationships too 🙂
April 3, 2014 6:30 pm|
The conflicts at home are more devastating at times, love the imagery. Nature’s fury is well linked to the inner turmoil, great post.
April 6, 2014 8:17 pm|
Thank you Sulekha! Glad that you liked it!!
April 3, 2014 7:31 pm|
Spot on, Shilpa! Wise words from you, Be quick to resolve conflicts before they mature to become wars.
Enjoyed the post and stay blessed.
April 6, 2014 8:18 pm|
Thanks a lot, Vishal 🙂
April 3, 2014 7:42 pm|
I like this, esp. about the crocodiles.
Best regards,
Elizabeth
PS: Visiting from the A to z sign up list.
April 6, 2014 8:19 pm|
Thank you Elizabeth! Good to see you here! 🙂
April 3, 2014 7:54 pm|
The quote is damn funny! 😀 and well what a marriage without conflict 😀
April 6, 2014 8:20 pm|
Yeah, doesn’t that add spice to the marriage!! 🙂
April 3, 2014 9:02 pm|
I don’t know much about crocodiles but I do know that arguments left to fester can bite you in the butt.
April 6, 2014 8:20 pm|
I liked about ‘bite you in the butt’… so true, Cathy! 😀
April 3, 2014 9:11 pm|
Shilpa,
Visiting after a long time. Read 6 posts. One should be what one is and follow own conscience and not try to be what others wish one to be. You have tempted me to go for this book – Soldier and spice. Let me see if it is available in our library. One needs to move on and not live in the past as you told in Could Have Been. A to C is so true for a happy married life, why for any happy relationship. Hope you continue this from D to Z also. I will have to visit on daily basis to catch up with your such gems.
Take care
April 6, 2014 8:21 pm|
Hello Mr Jack! Good to see you after a long time! How have you been? Hope great!
Thanks for reading the posts here! 🙂
April 3, 2014 9:16 pm|
Tough when we have so many storms brewing at once-a cacophony, like you say!
April 6, 2014 8:22 pm|
Tough to handle, isn’t it?
April 4, 2014 12:07 am|
ahh, I like this one Shilpa. Well written!
April 6, 2014 8:22 pm|
Thank you so much! 🙂
April 4, 2014 12:27 am|
I love the comparison of the raging sea to the storm at home.
April 6, 2014 8:22 pm|
Glad you liked that, Teresa 🙂
April 4, 2014 12:37 am|
Sure it is deep and thoughtful… but I found it very funny from one angle.. that is the husband is hen-pecked and is scared of wifey… Cute…
April 6, 2014 8:24 pm|
I never thought of that!! 😀 I guess, he is just worried about the arguments and ugly words that would be exchanged at home!!
April 4, 2014 2:39 am|
Well, Everything I wanted to say and much more is said above 🙂
April 6, 2014 8:25 pm|
😀
April 4, 2014 3:26 am|
Brilliantly penned down ….
April 6, 2014 8:25 pm|
Thank you Sushree 🙂
April 4, 2014 6:52 am|
Storms on the home front can be really devastating, but a few occasional storms are way better than a pent up volcano. The croc quote is just brilliant Shilpa!!
April 6, 2014 8:26 pm|
True that!! Small storms are better and easier to handle too! Thank you Reshma!
April 4, 2014 8:02 am|
Nice thoughts. I also like the croc theory, it is so very true. In every relationship we must remember there is always a middle path, and we must never let go of that path.
April 6, 2014 8:27 pm|
Agree with you completely, Rama! Sorting matters amicably should be the goal!
April 4, 2014 10:17 am|
written extremely well ! very important to resolve conflicts everyday our lives. ! thanks for sharing !
April 6, 2014 8:27 pm|
Thank you Genevive!
April 4, 2014 11:05 am|
agreed! conflicts should be resolved quickly for you never know how big they might become if resolved soon…..I love the quote you used for the post 🙂
April 6, 2014 8:28 pm|
Thank you! 🙂
April 4, 2014 12:31 pm|
“Be quick to resolve conflicts before they mature to become wars.”
Absolutely true. Sometimes what can be doused by just words turn out to be a drama for the world to see.
April 6, 2014 8:29 pm|
True and we can do away with drama of this kind in our lives!
April 5, 2014 7:32 pm|
Shilpa,There is no relationship icluding marriage which hasnt gone through a rough phase of conflicts.
The best way out is to talk it over..communicate
April 6, 2014 8:29 pm|
Agree, communication is the key!
April 5, 2014 11:35 pm|
A lovely themed A to Z Blogging Challenge. And an even nicer post for the letter C…Conflicts must be sorted out before one hits the bed for the day. Keep writing. Keep inspiring.
April 6, 2014 8:30 pm|
So good to see you here, Shail. Thanks a lot. Glad you liked this theme 🙂
April 7, 2014 1:52 am|
conflicts should be resolved before they become Curse! Nice advice Shilpa 🙂
April 8, 2014 11:52 pm|
Exactly! Thanks Nibha!
April 7, 2014 10:11 am|
Beautiful Shilpa, very poetic this 55er is. And true about your words to the wise, Every conflict has to be nipped in the bud, communication is the key for this.
April 8, 2014 11:53 pm|
True that! Hope more and more couples realize that! Thanks Asha ! 🙂