My theme for this year’s Blogging from A to Z April Challenge is Marriage from A to Z in 55 Words. B is for Balance in Marriage, today!
He is an extrovert while she is an introvert. 
He’s a morning person and she is a night owl.
He likes it loud, she likes it soft, the music that is.
Reading and writing looked like work to him while these were her passions.
So post marriage do the opposites attract, still?
No, they attack!
A Word to the Wise
We are sun and moon, dear friend; we are sea and land. It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is: each the other’s opposite and complement. Hermann Hesse
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139 Responses
Interesting story.. The yin and yang require a particular alignment for harmony.. If not though they are yin and yang, there will only be friction ..
Thank you GS! Achieving yin-yang balance is important because that helps us to stay happy and fulfilled in any relationship.
My husband and I were completely opposite to each other…But I have gradually found that with time we have become very similar…makes sense?
I know what you mean, Nabanita! It’s the same with KG and me! 😀
That was a great story and it sounds like my husband and I.
Wow! How cool 🙂
that is so true with my parents!! 😛
Aha! That’s interesting, Darby 🙂
It takes work to find a healthy balance that meets the needs of a couple. Especially if that couple is very different from one another.
Agree, Cheryl. It truly takes a lot of work to have that balance in a relationship!
You’re probably going to hear this a lot today, Shilpa, but that sounds like my husband and me! He is more politically conservative than I am. I am artistic; he is logical. The list goes on and on. That’s two days in a row you’ve helped me smile (even more) when thinking about my marriage!
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I know, I am seeing that!! Goes on to prove that opposites do attract!! Thanks LuAnn! Glad to share some smiles with you! 🙂 ♥
I think if personalities are opposite it can still work but there have to be some common interests and of course, common values. My ex and I were too similar — both stubborn, both avoidant and well, no wonder he is now my ex. I’ll admit that complete opposites probably don’t work.
A lot of couples are completely opposite to each other, but guess with time, they learn to accept and respect the differences and find some common grounds too. And that works out well! 🙂
It is all about striking the right balance isn’t it Shilpa, extremities are best avoided.
True extremely opposites are tough to balance, agree!
You’ve given food for thought!
If two people are ‘opposites’ in everything, it’s certainly a recipe for disaster. There has to be some common ground.
I am sure there is always some or the other common things, if not, they have to really work at peaceful co-existence!
i guess as long as there is love, people will find out a way to make things work 🙂 nice post 🙂
True that!! 🙂
Balance, in 55 Words ! Hats off…..
As long as there is love, we find peace in imbalance too….. that that imbalance actually balances the love 😉 Beautiful post, Shilpa ji 😉
Thank you Sreeja! 🙂
If you have the will, you make peace with the opposites even the idiosyncrasies. They actually add to the fun elements. But on the larger issues in life, similarity of opinion is mandatory!
True, most of the couples are different but they do work out a balance and make things work despite the disparity!
Balancing act indeed, Shilpa! The quote from Hesse is so perfect!
Thanks Beloo!
Me and hubby completely opposite. We dated for 7 yes before we got married and were well aware of how different we were. Yes there was apprehension but what worked for us was love, understanding, not changing each other and most imp space.
You are spot on, Aditi! That’s the perfect recipe for harmony in a marriage! Way to go 🙂
Oh wow, lovely theme!
Differences make life interesting. And enjoying these makes one happy! Once you understand this there will be B for Balance and no A for Arguments!
I like the way you explained this, Nisha!! 🙂
except for the first sentence which is the reverse…rest everything fits the description for me and my hubby!!!! opposites do attract!
Wow!! So my story is very close to reality! 🙂
Oh how true! When my husband met me, we were like chalk and cheese, but now from having respected each other’s personalities we have been able to imbibe some of each other’s qualities!
That’s super Gauri and that is the way to do it too 🙂 Cheers 🙂
I agree with you. Once we respect each other’s life choices life can be peaceful
True that!
Very interesting!!!!!!! I loved the opposites attack part!
Thanks Sri 🙂
Well, sounds like a perfect balance to me! : )
Yes, the yin and the yang 🙂
Shilpa really simple yet impactful . So true we can be day and night and there is nothing wrong in that..it is not our purpose to become each other 🙂
You said it, Sfurti, yes, “it is not our purpose to become each other”!!
Yes, while some couple think similarity works better, I think, complementarity is a better balance.
I just pondered at our friends and relatives circle and could not find any couple who are similar in most of the things! So wonder how it would be with them… always in sync and no conflicts??
How true! Even though the couple is diametrically opposite. It is balance that they maintain that keeps them going.
Well said, Ma’am 🙂
The story of every marriage.. Opposites all the way, fighting everyday. I think however, that by the time we get to old age we become pretty similar… Or maybe we will simply lose the energy to spar.
I think “Or maybe we will simply lose the energy to spar.” would be the case 😀
This could be about me and my spouse 😉 Loved that Hesse quote. How perfect!
Aha! That’s cool 😀
Discovering the “balance” in face of so many opposites is the only way forward….
Absolutely, finding the balance is the way to do it! 🙂
What’s not surprising is that people who get married are never alike which is what makes a marriage beautiful! Great post!
Yeah, almost all couples are opposite to each other in so many ways and still the marriage works out! Totally cool 🙂
Opposites do attract, and how 🙂 My husband hates going out, movies, loud music, writing and impulsive behaviour whereas i am the opposite. We both have given each other the freedom to be ourselves and be together, complementing each other and not fighting. I think it would have been so boring if we both had the same interests and hobbies 🙂 Lovely post, yet again.
We are like that too 😀 Thanks Sulekha! 🙂
I so love these lines…and the word Balance. Once a friend told me what fun to be with someone who is your reflection, we should add some spice to life. I agree, when two different people learn to live with each other there is a lifelong growth of souls…
Reread this: “We are sun and moon, dear friend; we are sea and land. It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is: each the other’s opposite and complement.”
“When two different people learn to live with each other there is a lifelong growth of souls”… so so true!
I feel two people being totally opposite is tricky. May be some common ground is required. Nevertheless balance is the key in all situations.
I ma sure one can always find some common grounds!
Nice!!! I love the way you balance deep thoughts with easy words…I agree with yoy …I feel similarity broods boredom … Diversity always keeps people exploring each other …
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I think the same too… must meet some similar couples! Thanks a lot for the wonderful surprise! Loved it, Apoorva 🙂 ♥
This sounded like my story except that I’m a morning person and he’s a night owl 😀 I think having a partner with dissimilar likes has its owns pros and cons. You are introduced to different activities that you may have never tried before but at the same time when you want to do something you like, you never know if he will give you company
Aha! You too, Prasanna 😀
True you win some, you lose some 🙂
Husband and I have always been the mix of two opposites yes attacking each other and working our way through 😛
Sounds like our story too 😀
I loved it. It is about being accepted for who you are than to be a clone! Easy and smooth read.
Thanks Shine. 🙂
Loved it!!!
Thank you Satya 🙂
Everyone tells me opposites are the best! I have proof to believe that it is so.
Cool 😀
Enjoyed your 55er – you are truly the 55er queen Shilpa. So much said in so little. But I sure hope they don’t attack.
Thank you so much Suzy. You are too generous 🙂
I absolutely love that quote!
Me too 🙂
I think it is very true that as marriage partners in life we balance each other. Lovely story Shilpa. ♥
Thanks Kathy! ☺ ♥
Interesting thoughts. My husband and I like many of the same things, but we are a balance, where as I am chaos he is order a lot of the time 🙂 .
Tasha
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Goes on to prove again that opposites do attract, Tasha 🙂
Wise words of wisdom you got there. The balance of accepting each other, and never try to change the other into something he/she is not.. Yes, totally relate and agree:-) Sweet post Shilpa, I really enjoyed reading it:-)
Thanks a lot, Eli! Glad this resonates with you too 🙂
Hubby and I are opposites with some things. But for the most part, we share the same traits. 😛
Now isn’t that amazing, Jolie!! 🙂
My husband and I are learning that those things that make us opposites are actually good things. It helps us to be a support system for each other’s strengths and weaknesses.
TaMara
A fellow wHooligan
Now that is such a wonderful thing to do, TaMara 🙂 Love it! 🙂
Hmmmm… Food for thought….I think as long as you have shared values – all the other stuff works out!
Exactly, some common ground and rest everything falls in place with time 🙂
In real life especially among spouses this natural magnetic attraction of opposite poles is nonsense. In fact they repel and repel violently.
However as you mentioned life itself is an art a trapeze of accommodation, understanding. Repulsion may happen, but they must to accentuate the relationship.
But honestly SG there are people and relationships that are best left to repel than accommodate a patched , contrived existence.
Agree with you, Anil. Yes, some people are better if they are left alone!
Rule of nature is opposites attract and so i believe most matches are designed this way. To make it work, the couples have to complement each other.
Lovely construction of words,shilpa:)
And that needs work from both the parties! Thanks Asha 🙂
My husband and are different in some respects but we’re similar in all the ways that count. 🙂
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The bestest combination, I guess 🙂
All relations are an act of balance… nothing less, nothing more..!
Loving your 55ers 🙂
Well said, Sheethal. Glad you are liking them! ♥
I think slowly and gradually the similarities in thoughts and actions increase….
Wonderful thought
Yes, may be we learn to adapt and accommodate! 🙂
So true, I have seen so many couples who love each other, but life becomes so difficult when they have opposite interests.
That’s why the balance is needed and of course the differences have to respected and the relationship has to be worked on.
Lol! not that am experienced, but I always think how long can opposits remain attracted.
They do attack every now and then too 😉
That sounds like many couples I know of and even we 🙂
good theme for challenge.
ATB
Story of most of us 🙂
Interests doesn’t matter but if their thoughts match with each other’s then their life is the most balanced one. A lovely thought…
Agree with you Sheela! Thanks 🙂
Well, my parents aren’t exactly polar opposites, but I think I understand it relating to them 🙂
Glad they don’t attack though!
LOL 😀 They must have learnt to accept and respect the differences long back 🙂
We are sun and moon, dear friend; we are sea and land. It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is: each the other’s opposite and complement. Hermann Hesse
That is such a perfect quote! I have got to remember that. My husband and I believe that we are each a half of a single soul. This makes perfect sense now. 🙂
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Glad that this gave you some food for thought, Jamie!! 🙂
balance…*strokes his head*…this is not my cup of tea. I breathe chaos while thinking or doing…so is there an yang to chaos? *strokes his head again and this time his hair comes into his hand*…too close! 😉 😀
LOL 😀 You aren’t married, right, Siva?
Of course a balance has to be maintained, for sure else there’s no way of surviving the relationship.
BTW: lovely quote, there 🙂
What’s life without balance!! Thanks Kajal 🙂
Interests and habits do not matter as long as they are in love with each other.
Yes, love conquers all 🙂
wise words to be reminded of (often)
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Agree 🙂
I have come across people who reject others for being totally opposite of them. I can’t help but pity them as they lose the opportunity to see/feel/experience a lot more in life through that other…
This is a good one!
Being extremely opposite to each other may require a lot of hard work and mature thinking. So, may be they know themselves well 😉
Yes, opposite attracts but only in Science.. Marriage is no science… that’s why they find a match and not a contrast…
lovely post Shilpa.. 🙂
Interesting perspective!! 🙂
Shilpa,it works both ways.
Marriage is all about adjustments towards balancing.,though,I do see a disturbing trend amongst present generation.
Yes, now-a-days people give up too soon and too easily, sadly!
So much expressed in so few words….but sometimes opposites DO continue to attract after marriage.
Yes, and that’s a great thing for a marriage! 🙂
attack instead of attract.. so true sometimes. 🙂
I know 😀
Most of the married couples are always the opposite of each other. Very few lucky ones have similar traits and attitude towards life and everything.
Initially it is a bit difficult to adjust, but as time goes by we are able to understand and even appreciate the differences, and some of their qualities rub on us and we start to think like them, that is we both change, and when both change, the differences between us no longer exists. That is the beauty of a good relationship.
Nice topic Shilpa.
True, time changes us a lot as we learn to accept, respect, adjust and work towards harmony in our relationship!
Accepting the not-common traits of each other & agreeing to find a middle path is the right way to balance a relationship….that’s what I feel. Great post! 🙂
Exactly! That’s the way to go 🙂
Marriage is but a balancing act for both the partners.
“So post marriage do the opposites attract, still?
No, they attack!”
They do? Of course, they do. 🙂
LOL 😀 We all have seen that part in our lives 😉
nice one! I wonder if I get a husband totally opposite to me!! 😛
Wait and watch! 😀 Good luck to you Nibha… May you get the bestest one 🙂 ♥
This really reminded me of the wedding vow that says something like “love is not staring deep into each other’s eyes, but looking forward in the same direction together.” So perhaps, it doesn’t matter if you are different people as long as you are pulling in the same direction.
I liked that vow you shared a lot! Thank you 🙂